Your Childhood is Running Your Nervous System! Part 2 of 3

Updated: Oct 8, 2019


Part 1 highlighted that child neglect, rather than abuse, has a far higher prevalence and more widespread consequences.

Here's Why & How:

The need for a RESPONSIVE caregiver is a primary motivational drive to feel secure. According to Dr. Dan Siegel, our ability to manage our feelings or to self-regulate, directly correlates with the degree to which we experienced having "The 4 Ss of Healthy Attachment" while growing up...when our nervous systems were being wired.

The 4 Ss are whether we felt:

SEEN - SAFE - SOOTHED- SECURE = Self-regulation.

Self-regulation is our ability to manage feelings and emotions. It makes sense because our nervous systems are literally being wired as we develop. And they are being wired for feelings of safety or anxiety. As babies, we don't have words, but our bodies cry out when receiving signals of hunger, thirst, fatigue, fear, need for touch, comfort, connection. When we don't get our attachment needs met from a sensitive and responsive caregiver, our body and brain become flooded with fear and distress."