The Dilemma of Perfectionism

Updated: Oct 23, 2019



Are you or someone you know a perfectionist? If so, how did you/they become a perfectionist? Is perfection a positive or negative trait?


Who Becomes a Perfectionist?


Perfectionism becomes a coping mechanism for many who lived in an environment where:

  • every action was monitored and dictated

  • love is withdrawn for not meeting standards

  • every move is watched and criticized

  • nothing is ever good enough

  • rejection or abandonment is threatened

  • punishment is the result of imperfection.


Perfectionism, particularly from childhood maltreatment, can become so deeply ingrained in our psyches and behaviors that we may not recognize it.

A Real-life Example


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